Definition
Self-regulationisadynamicmechanismforindividualcognitivedevelopmentfromimbalancetoequilibrium.Therearebroadandnarrowsensesofself-regulation.Inabroadsense,self-regulationreferstotheprocessbywhichpeoplesettheirownbehaviorstandardsanduserewardsorpunishmentsthattheycancontroltostrengthen,maintain,orchangetheirbehavior.Self-regulationinthenarrowsenseactuallyreferstoself-reinforcement,thatis,whenpeoplereachtheirownstandards,theyuserewardstheycancontroltostrengthenandmaintaintheirbehavior.
Process
Threebasicprocesses:self-observation,self-judgmentandself-reaction.
Self-observation
referstotheprocessbywhichpeopleobservetheirbehavioraccordingtodifferentmeasurementstandardsindifferentactivities.
Self-judgment
referstotheprocessbywhichpeopleestablishacertaingoalfortheirbehaviortojudgethegapbetweentheirbehaviorandthestandardandcausepositiveornegativeself-evaluation.
Self-reaction
Referstotheinnerexperienceofself-satisfaction,pride,self-blame,andself-criticismthatarisefrompersonalevaluationofself-behavior.
Method
Consciousnessregulation
Humanconsciousnesscanregulatetheoccurrenceandintensityofemotions.Generallyspeaking,peoplewithhigherlevelsofideologicalaccomplishmentcanbemoreeffectiveRegulatetheiremotionscarefully,becausetheyaregoodatunderstandingandtolerantwhenencounteringproblems.
LanguageRegulation
Languageisapowerfultoolthataffectspeople’semotionalexperienceandperformance.Languagecancauseorinhibitemotionalresponses,suchasLinZexu’s“RageControl”onthewallThetwo-characterbannerisanexampleofusinglanguagetocontrolandregulateemotions.
Attentionshift
Toshiftattentionfromone'sownnegativeemotionstootheraspects,RussianwriterTurgenevadvisesthosewhoareself-servingandquarreling:Beforespeaking,Thetongueshouldbeturnedtentimesinthemouth.Thesepersuasionisveryhelpfultoalleviatepassion.
TransferofAction
Thismethodistotransformemotionsintopowerofaction,thatis,totransformangerintopowertoengageinscience,culture,learning,work,art,andsports.
Releasemethod
Lettheangrypersonspeakfranklyabouttheopinions,unfair,andrighteousthings,soastodispelanger,orfacethesandbags,theheadsandfacesarelikefierceAfewpunchescanachievethepurposeofrelaxingnervefunction.
Self-control
Peoplecanalsouseself-regulationtocontroltheiremotions.Thatis,accordingtoasetofspecificprocedures,somerandomreactionsofthebodyareusedtoimproveotherinvoluntaryreactionsofthebody,andthepsychologicalprocessisusedtoinfluencethephysiologicalprocess,soastoachievetheeffectofrelaxationandcalmness,soastorelievethebademotionssuchastensionandanxiety.
Jobhuntingpsychology
1.Tellyourselfthatnooneisimmunefromthecrisis
Withunemployment,jobhuntingfrustration,anxietyisalwaysItwillexist,anditwillalsobringastrongsenseoffrustrationandhelplessnesstojobseekers.Atthistime,youmustlearntofacerealityandtellyourselfthatinaneconomicdownturn,unemploymentandjobhuntingarenormalsocialphenomena.
Infact,whatistrulydestructivetothementalhealthofthepersonconcernedisunemploymentandthefeelingsoffear,shock,anger,resentment,andlowself-esteemthatariseduringthejobsearchprocess.Itisnotunemploymentorjobsearchfailureitself.Toacertainextent,crisesdefinitelyexistinaperson'slife,andnoonecanbespared.Nomatterhowmuchtrainingorpsychologicalpreparationapersonhas,whenhefacesaseriouscrisis,hewilldisintegrate,losebalance,beconfused,andcopingmechanisms.Inefficiencyisinevitable.Thedifferenceisthateveryonefeelsdifferentlyandhasdifferentcopingmethods.Itisunwisetoblindlybelievethatyoucanavoidpsychologicalshocksandbeabletodealwithanycrisissteadilyandcalmly.
Sowhenthecrisiscomes,andtheanxietycomes,youmustlearntolookattheproblemrationally,andafteryourecognizetheessenceofthematter,youcansolvetheproblemcreatively.
2.Stopandunderstandyouremotions
Nomatterhowyoufeelandinterpret,unemploymentandfrustrationinjobhuntingaremajorstresseventsthatneedtobespentTimeandenergytodigestanddealwith,usuallytheimpactofcrisisistime-limited,subjectivediscomfortwillbereducedin6to8weeks.Ifpossible,itisbesttostopyourselftounderstandthenegativefeelingsofanger,guilt,shame,tension,self-blame,avoidance,etc.broughttoyoubythecrisis,whichwillbenefityournextmove.
Unemploymentandjobsearcharealsofrustrated.Eachperson'semotionalresponseisverydifferent,dependingondifferentideasaboutsituationalcognition.Aperson'sfeelingsareoftenrelatedtohowtheyinterpretandunderstandthesituation.Thesituationitselfcannotdirectlydeterminetheirfeelings.
Analyzedfromtheperspectiveofpsychology,whenaneventoccurs,thebrainwillalwaysproducesomerapidvaluationthoughts,whicharesofastastoemergeautomatically,whichisquitefastandsimple;infact,inmostcases,thesevaluationsThinkingisalwaysinfluencedbyemotions,andoftenhasnotexperiencedtheprocessofself-criticism.
Sowhatwehavetodoistolearntoconfirmandevaluateyourautomaticthinkingbypayingattentiontoyourownemotionsandfeelings.Whenyounoticethatyouarefeelinganger,imbalance,orirritability,youcanaskyourself:Whatwasinmymindjustnow?Atthistime,youmayfindanidea.Whenyouhavedeterminedyourautomaticthinking,youmayhaveassesseditscorrectnesswithinacertainrange.
Ifyoufindthatyourinterpretationiswrongandcorrectit,youwillfindthatyourmoodimproves.Whenyourthinkingisnotlimitedtoacertain"deadknot",yourfeelingswillbeverydifferent.
3.Self-regulationthroughbehavior
Understandingyournegativeemotions,youcantrytousesomemethodstorelieveanxietyandstressandkeepyourselfAstateofrelaxationandmoderatetension.
Somestudieshaveshownthatafterunemployment,negativeemotionswillincreasetheirinfluence,whichwillincreasethevalueofnegativepressure.Stresswillcausepeopletohaveacorrespondingphysiologicalresponse.Infact,everyonehastheirownsymptomsofstress,suchasemotionalloss,headaches,neckcramps,backcramps,heartpain,stomachpain,diarrhea,skinredness,andskinirritation.Itching,shortnessofbreath,drowsiness,agitation,smoking,drinking,eating...Atthistime,youcanusemethodssuchasbreathingrelaxation,imagination,andself-hypnosistochangeyourstressstate.
Forexample,thewaypeoplebreatheaffectstheiremotions.Shortnessofbreathwhenexcited,longerinhalationthanexhalationwhenafraid,andgreatershoulderundulation.Whenyouareangry,youwillbreathedeeplyandbreatheoutslowly.Whencrying,breathingwillbeintermittent.Breathemoreevenlywhencalm.Wecanreversetheseprocesses,findanewentrancefromemotionstothebody,andfundamentallyaffectthementalstatebycheckingandchangingthebreath.